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Well, here's a collaring ceremony script that combines both! Collaring vows collaring ceremonies will vary greatly depending on the folks involved, generally speaking, a collaring ceremony is a symbolic gathering to celebrate and honor a commitment between partners within a BDSM or kink community. The symbols and structure of a collaring ceremony can resemble a wedding because they often include jewelry and vows — but instead of a ring being slid onto fingers as a symbol the commitment, in a collaring ceremony, folks will sometimes place a collar around the neck of submissive.
We're about to head into engagement photo season. Insert the gauzy shots of couples smiling at each other, and the photos of folks holding hands. Like a ring in a traditional wedding, the collar acts as a physical representation of the emotional, physical, and spiritual bond between a Dominant and their submissive partner or partners.
Yes, we said partners. Collaring ceremonies aren't necessarily just a couple — they can include multiple partners who have chosen to commit to a polyamorous relationship. And of course the gender roles involved are completely fluid.
The Dominant may identify as a woman, man, or all of the above! The submissive s may identify as male, female, or none of the above! Clearly, collaring ceremonies are completely deeply nontraditional — they can be polyamorous and gender non-binary.
There are no rules to follow, and every collaring ceremony will unique to the folks taking part. Collaring vows planning the ceremonies can the ceremony to be whatever works best for them! That said, if you're looking for some inspiration, here's one collaring ceremony script to inspire you:. This is sort of a collaring ceremony as a wedding. It will also be a polyamorous focused ceremony with our spouses giving us away — in a manner of speaking.
So, this is the draft for my vanillapolyamorouscollaring ceremony…. Exodus "But if the slave declares 'I love my master, and my wife and children: I do not wish to go free' his master shall take him before G-d. He shall be brought to the door or the doorpost, and his master shall pierce his ear with an awl; and he shall then remain his slave for life. I am asking you to commit yourself to me and make me one of the highest priorities in your life, but your children and your marriage must always come first.
Do you accept these terms? Dominant: And I am promising you that I am committing myself to you and making you one of the highest priorities in my life, second only to my children and my marriage. Do you accept this promise? Genesis An Angel of the Lord found her by a spring of water in the wilderness, the spring on the road to Shur, and said, "Hagar, slave of Sarai, where have you come from and where are you going?
Dominant: Today I offer you a collar and with it my love. I will [insert vows here]. In return I ask that you [insert requests here] Do you accept my collar? I will [insert vows here] In return I ask that you [insert requests here] Do you accept my key? Ecclesiastes Two are better than one; because they have good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?
And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken. Dominant: In binding ourselves to each other, we recognize that we are not merely making a commitment between two individuals. Each of us have families of our own and, as we intertwine our lives, so too do we intertwine theirs. In collaring vows of this, we now invite our spouses to speak.
Dominant: Talmudic law requires that any legal contract or act of acquisition be concluded through an act of kinyan. For the acquisition of a person, the deal may be sealed by having the individual perform chazakah — an act of service for their new master.
Let us now seal this contract. Related Post How to find a venue for your polyamorous wedding Choosing a wedding venue can be complicated. Costs, location, size, catering rules What if you also need to make sure that your venue is poly-friendly? We prefer this term to polyamory, but sure, you can call us poly if you want to. We had a discussion of how…. Wow, this is really awesome! There is definitely a lot of thought in it, and it's really neat to see a post like this!
It's absolutely wonderful to see so much love and open-mindedness. We need more of this!! But I did want to make one gentle correction: Polyamory was what was mentioned in the original post and your comment mentioned polygamy. Polyamory and polygamy are actually not the same thing. A polygamist the word means 'many wives' marries more than one person. Usually there's not an equal distribution e. This seems occur most often in certain religious sects and although I'm sure it's possible for polygamy to happen the other way around one woman, multiple husbands I think that it must be pretty rare.
Many poly folk collaring vows have a legal spouse collaring vows also have other partners, but there is only one legal spouse. Collaring vows is also a much more equal gender distribution in that all genders are free to have partners. There's a lot of info to google if you were interested, or I'd be glad to answer any questions I've been polyamorous for yearsbut honestly I'm just glad and impressed that you commented with such an open mind. You can't hear me, but I'm applauding as I type this. It's hard to applaud and type at the same time but I'm giving it my best shot. Thanks for this information!
I just wanted to add that when a woman has collaring vows than one husband or male partner, it is called polyandry. I'm chuckling because my partner said exactly what you did, but it was too late to edit the comment. Both polyandry and polygyny are forms of polygamy. And polyandry is not common, though some cultures in Tibet and Nepal still practice it regularly. First off I'd like to say wow, this post was amazin and we need moar!
Second, thank you for posting this comment. Thank you for the insight, I was very confused with all of it. I didn't even know that there was something other than polygamy, but reading the BDSM I was interested, lo and behold I learned somethign new today! And truth be told after reading it I was so lost about what was happeneing until you left this comment and now I understand and I wanted to thank you for that.
If I don't get it I try to understand the best I can and you've helped a lot. Thanks so much for sharing! Seriously, you guys? I love this shit. Where else in the land of wedding blogs collaring vows you see the BDSM ceremonies? This is one of those posts that just makes me all warm and fuzzy slash hot and bothered about OBB. Yeah, I was SO stoked when I saw this. Just wanted to say that, even as the publisher of Offbeat Bride, this post is totally not MY thing either, but I love that we can all appreciate it. Doesn't anyone find the idea of publicly "collaring" a woman incredibly disgusting?
All the feminist hairs on my body are standing on end! While I am not in a polyamorous relationship, I do feel that people should be allowed to express all the love they feel inside. However, using a collar to symbolize this unique bond is rife with tones of ownership.
When it's consensual, it's not disgusting. Indeed, consensual ownership is the whole point of a collaring ceremony! Does it only seem "incredibly disgusting" if it's a man collaring a woman? I fully support all kinds of consensual relationships. I mainly find the symbol of the collar offensive. Consensual ownership is not the idea that comes across when one member male or female is wearing the collar and the other holds the key. Not to mention the fact that it objectifies the collared. And yes, I would find it "incredibly disgusting" if a woman was collaring a man. Wendy— I think "consensual ownership" is not the idea that comes across TO YOU collaring vows you see references to collaring ceremonies.
A collaring ceremony is not an uncommon way of sanctifying commitment although it's not the only way, obviously ; clearly, the symbol works for a lot of people, and if no one is trying to force you collaring vows do it, it's not hurting you. You're entitled to your opinion, but please be respectful and conscious of others' rights to make their own choices and use the rituals which resonate with them.
As someone who's been collared, I kindly ask you to refrain from judgmental and offensive statements. I was just going to say, it's no different than putting a ring on your finger… There is nothing disgusting about expressing devotion and love to another consenting person. It's just as possible for a woman to collar a man y'know.
I think I see what you mean by the idea of collaring someone, if you break it down to just that act. Someone wearing a collar seems to be on the same ground as putting a collar on a pet. However, I don't see it that way here because obviously this ceremony required and displays a lot of thought and consent so if that's what was agreed upon, then I don't see anything wrong with it here.
It's funny… I completely understood it and I'm the one at the top who said she had no idea about any of this. I feel like so often "equality" ends up trying to enforce same-ness, when there is so much to benefit from a relationship of differences. It's obviously not an objectification just read those quotes! I honestly think normal marriage could benefit from looking at it this way. I would much rather define my role as the "social worrier" and have my husband define his as the "laid-back introvert", than "wife" and "husband", which no longer seem to apply in this age of equality.
Anyway, got sidetracked there, but seriously I completely "get" the desire for being in one of those roles both dominant and submissive and I truly think most people have that desire in some way. It is probably pretty healthy to actually acknowledge and express it in a mutually beneficial way like this. Apologies for the ramble…. I think all relationships that recognize specific desires, ways of communicating, and everyone's true nature are potentially the most honest. Agreed as well! Instead of condemning the collar, think of it as another form of wedding ring.Collaring vows
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